Taking care of a baby is hard. Taking care of a toddler is hard. Here are my mom hacks that developed while in survival mode.
What is survival mode? It is when a parent does whatever needs to be done to survive the day, or the meal, or the outing, or whatever. When you are trying to leave the house and already running late and your toddler starts taking her clothes off, you jump into survival mode. When you barely slept because your baby woke up three times and your toddler ended up in your bed at 3 AM, you jump into survival mode. When all you want to do is sit on the couch with a snack in peace so you really need your kid to nap, you jump into survival mode.
Survival mode usually involves doing the things that non-parents or first time parents would gasp at. But guess what, if your kid is not in danger and it gives mom some itty bitty part of her sanity back, then do what you need to do to survive this thing called “motherhood”
Screen Time.
Screen time gives me the chance to drink my coffee mostly uninterrupted. It lets me sit down and snuggle my girl for a little bit instead of chasing her out of my kitchen where she is dragging chairs to climb onto countertops to get snacks out of the cabinets. It lets me cook lunch, it lets me nurse my baby. I’ll just say it. I love screen time.
Cue the research saying screen time is bad and your kid won’t talk and they’ll have ADHD and all that. First of all, the APA changed their screen-time recommendation to include more time. Also, my 2.5 year old talks (a lot…nonstop) and does not have ADHD or ADD. In fact, screen time has taught her some awesome things (thanks Daniel Tiger) like how to communicate her feelings.
Suckers or any other sweet.
Toddler won’t get dressed? “I’ll give you a sucker…” Doesn’t want to leave the house? “I’ll give you a sucker…”. I’m sure some parents have perfectly behaved toddlers who would not dare challenge their authority. I, however, have a stubborn, independent little girl who tests me at every chance she gets. So guess what, it is either fight with a 2 year old for 20 minutes to get her to put her pants on to get in the car (and fighting with a 2 year old NEVER works) or give her a sucker and be out the door in 5. I choose my battles, and sometimes the sucker wins.
Car rides.
When I was pregnant and had to take care of a toddler, trying to get her to nap in her toddler bed was exhausting. So I started planning my errands so that we would be in the car heading home at nap time, and my daughter would fall asleep. I’d carry her upstairs and then I got to sit my big pregnant ass on the couch and rest my sore feet. It was SO much easier. And if I didn’t have any errands? I still used the car. It was much easier to get her to fall asleep that way, while I sit driving in the front listening to some music. This is a great hack, and I still use it. Will it develop bad habits? I don’t know, she goes to bed at night just fine.
Wine.
I know, its so cliche to be a mom who drinks wine. Guess what, I’m basic. IDC. Wine reminds me that I am an adult and I deserve nice things (while still wearing the shirt that got spit up on 3 hrs earlier). Cheers mamas.